HOW TO GET FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
Sleeping with the enemy is dangerous but is it safe sleeping with friends? Modern living finds easy solutions to satisfy human needs and it develops into getting benefits from friends. It excludes buying sex, a one night stand and a search for a life partner. A friend with benefits is getting someone to have sex with – no strings attached.
About friends:
Regardless of gender, your friends are the most important persons in your life. Friendship is an important social status and unlike other relationships; it is left for you to manage. You consider these people a part of your world and assume that the relationship gives you lots of pleasure. Friendship is the bond between people who enjoy each other’s company but the relationship is filled with many black and gray areas. Do you need friends to fill your emotional, social and physical needs? The answer is what you find buried deep in your consciousness. Consciously, you want friends to communicate your thoughts and ideas; but subconsciously to satisfy your emotional and physical needs as well.
All about FF:
Friends with benefits, also called FF (short for Fuck Friends or even an acquaintance) is about a spoken or unspoken agreement to have occasionally sex with each other, minus any romantic attachment and expectation. This is a novel term which has become a popular practice for the past two decades. As men and women enjoy new methods of preventing conception, safe sex and desiring to be exposed to wilder thrills, sex is now as casual as going to a beauty salon or a barbershop. Consequently, being friends or knowing each other is taken to the next level, having sex for fun without the need for establishing a relationship or commitment.
Advantages:
- Availability
Sex is easily available, just at your finger tips. If you need a shot; give her a call in the middle of the night and she will come running, if she wants it too.
- Convenience
Sex is there without pressures and the limitations of a relationship. Both sides are honest in their expectation of pure physical satisfaction, nothing more and nothing less.
- No emotional involvement
When all emotional baggage is removed from its indulgence, it becomes simpler and more pleasurable.
- Economy of time
FF is a time-saver, no need to spend time flirting, dating, giving her flowers and buying her drinks; you have clarified that your purpose is not romance just some action without breaking her heart if the relationship turns sour.
No proof needed for your sexual prowess
You do not need to prove that you are top sexual performer as you both know what to expect from each other. She will disregard your flaws just as you will disregard hers. It is only for mutual satisfaction.
Finding friends with benefits:
Make a good start by determining that she is the right person you want to have sex with. Review your female friends who are free and place them against these criteria:
- Mutual physical attraction;
- You know that you will never develop permanent attachments; and
- The other person is not serious and can take heartbreaks easily.
FF is hard to find as it takes an open-minded sexually-matured person to offer to a friend indirectly. When you feel that she is the right person, learn about her attitude towards sex, relationships, being single and your mutual attitude about it. Is she easy to talk about sex, enjoys regular sex and wants company? After you have tested the water and the tide is favorable, then let her be overwhelmed by your charm but indirectly stating that you are not looking for a girlfriend but a friend with benefits. If she finds you attracted, you will both be sharing the night together.
Where to find friends with benefits:
In the event that you find none of your friends or acquaintances meet the FF criteria, there are many obvious places you can search for that one person, a potential friend and sex mate.
- Bars, cafes and clubs:
Many persons on the lookout for companions frequent bars, cafes or clubs to drink away their boredom, to let music fill their loneliness or to dance away their sorrows. Enter these venue and your eyes will be confronted with them. Of course, you will be magnetized towards the most attractive one. Getting to know her will only take a matter of seconds since both of you are on the same level of need. Order a drink for both of you and being a glib talker, you will get her interest and even sympathy. Who knows, you might leave the bar together before the stroke of midnight to Hernando’s Hideaway!
- Work:
Most relationship gurus frowned on work as the ideal place to find a date; a friend maybe but not a potential lover. In fact, many workplaces make it a general rule prohibiting people working together to develop relationships. Friendship can start from these places but nothing beyond. To allow the relationship to flourish, one partner might quit. A one night stand or a seduction on dark corners will eventually reach the ears of the boss which is a risk to your job.
- Gym and workout centers:
Find your special friend in a gym if you are the athletic person. Become a member of a gym and make friends from there. It would be just the right venue for two people who love sports to get acquainted and share similar passions. She will be mesmerized by your six abs and physique while you will be awed by her physical asset. You will both enjoy talking about topics closest to both of your hearts. Physical activities improve bodily endurance which holds a lot of promise should you allow friendship to go to the next level.
- Internet
Living in a hi-tech world makes the internet the best way to find a friend and a lover. When you search the web, you will come across thousands of dating sites which is an answer to your desire to start friendship with benefits. Millions of people find these dating websites as the ideal venue. Whether you are a college student, a divorcee, an old maid, a senior, rich or poor, you are make a good start by determining that she is the right person you want to have sex. Review your female friends who are free and place them against these criteria:
Tips for more successful friends with benefits:
- If you are possessive by nature, maybe it’s best to just avoid the whole FF idea to begin with.
- Once you cross the physical line, the relationship between old friends are lost so do not start building FF with a childhood friend.
- It is best to make friends with benefits with an acquaintance rather than a close female friend.
- The rule of no dating with others exclusively must be observed; if one violates it, then cut off sex immediately.
- Do not change each other’s schedules or life styles because of your FF since there is no commitment for each other.
- Tryst must not be frequent as sex does bond people closely. Set a limit how many time you do it and stick by your schedule.
- You are friends during daytime although casual sex partners at night.
If both parties are clear that the relationship is only about sex, then being FF can be fun and rewarding. If one party is expecting for something more, then it becomes a dangerous arrangement. In very extraordinary cases, both may develop mutual romantic feelings. When this takes place, the arrangement will no longer be adequate to satisfy physical needs. The relationship becomes real and built on a strong foundation of friendship and understanding.
Tired of just watching your friends pick up hot girls? You may be among those guys who already mastered the skill of being a wingman since you always help your buddies get the girls they want. Stop wondering if the hottest chic in the bar can land on your lap because the answer is… hell yeah!
Being shy is not an obstacle, you just have to practice a little. One can take the opportunity to practice all over the place if you feel a little shy and unsure. In the food cue, the bank or during the walk. It’s just practicing to get in touch. To compliment the people something about nice clothes, discuss the weather, train schedules or whatever may suit depending on the situation. The majority of people to contact, ask something or giving a compliment to feel connected as positive. People want to be seen and heard, so why not see and hear? The whole thing is based on something called social responsibility, and there is nothing that we can control, when someone responds to contact us, feel free. Is it then so we responds – responds to the other person really shows that what we say is important, then we naturally want to continue to talk to him or her.
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